Seriously. No one gets married anymore. I wish I knew a family as large as the Duggars, just so I could go to all of their weddings. Since the media makes it seem like they’re having a wedding every other month. I think I would be excited to get to go. Heck, I get excited about watching their weddings online! I don’t even know these people. They’re so cute, though. Who can’t love Jill and Jessa?? I sure do.
So, why don’t people get married?? The answer to that is so complicated. Our modern culture seems to complicate the things that should be so simple. I’m tired tonight, I have a headache. I don’t think I’ll have the energy or even the mental capacity to attempt to answer that question. But I’ll try. Because it bothers me. I wish people got married! You know why they don’t? Assuming they are like most people and they’ve got a special someone, well, they usually either live with the person with no further commitment in sight, or don’t live with the person but sleep with them anyway, because, well, that’s what people do. Assuming they get engaged, they then plan for a wedding date well over a year away, because hey, they’ve already had sex, so why rush? And you know their wedding has to be EVERYTHING! they ever dreamed it should be and it has to go absolutely perfect or they might turn into Bridezilla. Lordy.
You know what’s different about our modern culture’s immorality? It’s brazen. Yeah, that means bold. In your face. No apologies. Back in the day (within just the last 100 years), it was frowned upon by society for you to even go out with a person of the opposite sex unchaperoned. Let alone if you actually did the deed and pregnancy resulted. You were disgraced. You were thought of as ‘loose’. It was considered wrong. Today, it’s considered ridiculous to ‘save yourself for marriage’. And because it’s considered ridiculous, barely anyone does it. And the ones that do it are the ones like the Duggars and extreme Christian families and ‘True Love Waits’ young people who wear promise rings and mean it. (These kids can end up at the other extreme: waiting and waiting for just the right person without ever having gone on so much as a single date. I think that shouldn’t be the case either! Whole other topic…)
So, because sex isn’t a big deal and everyone does it, and because there’s no real reason to be quick about getting married and having a wedding because the sex has already been had, and of course “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?”
The result is: no one gets married.
Okay, so it’s not completely true that NO ONE gets married. People get married. But it’s not very exciting. You know they’ve already been living together, and they’ve been planning their wedding for over a year, so when it’s actually the day of the wedding, the white dress means nothing except that it’s pretty. The giving away of the bride doesn’t mean as much. The vows fall a bit flat. And who really cares?
Now, I’m aware that my opinion isn’t a popular one. But I want to go to weddings. More weddings where we all know the two people have really saved themselves for one another. Weddings where at least they didn’t live together first. Where at least THAT was saved for after marriage. Everybody wants to get the cart before the horse. Let’s all say it together: First comes LOVE, then comes MARRIAGE, then comes the baby in the baby carriage!
Okay, so when you have a wedding, invite me regardless of whether you’re doing it ‘right’, because I love weddings nonetheless. I want to see your dress and eat your food. Oh, and I’ll cry properly during the ceremony and give you a meaningful hug and gush over how awesome it is. Because even though it may not have been right beforehand…at least you’re one of the few that are GETTING MARRIED!!! And for that, THANK YOU!